When you started your journey together, hopelessly consumed by love and affection, did it ever occur to you that a few miles down the road you would both go your separate ways, sharing mutual resentment and hazy friendships(possibly by association)? I should hope not, because it is quite alarming, how easily people hop in and out of marriage. The truth is that all of what we see today balls down to one thing, ‘our depraved mentality’. It is and will never be enough to feel a burning sensation in your heart or have butterflies in your stomach. Life, real life is beyond all that mumbo jumbo and the sooner we begin to realize that, the better. We need to stop pretending, calling it the 21st century as an excuse for the downward spiral in stability of relationships. What we see on screens are fantasical acts, mere illusions that will lead you astray. Before you can even think of getting attached to a person, you need to assess yourself as an individual and your reasons for it. LUST,This is what the world calls love,You do not need a Christian Grey in your life and you most certainly do not need to be an Anastasia Steele. If that is what you desire, when its broken, you’ll end up feeling more empty than ever before. Our focus should not be on pleasures , it should be on building a proper friendship with another human being. Instead of looking for obscene activities to do, how about you just talk, share your thoughts and uplift yourselves. Young people should never be in a hurry to start anything of the sort, there is every possibility that you’ll make the wrong decisions. I said in a previous blog post, that ‘maybe its time to go back’ , there’s absolutely nothing wrong in acting like a gentle man and behaving like a Lady, we are not vampires with insatiable appetites, we are noble people and we can discipline ourselves. Focus on building decent connections with people, don’t force an attraction, let it come naturally. We need to stop saying that its a free world, we can express ourselves , because that kind of freedom only brings heartache, loneliness, confusion, addictions, strife and anarchy.  This is what it does to you, it puts you in a prison cell and leaves the door open, tells you can leave at any time but that is its deception, you end up feeling comfortable and fail to notice the door being shut  eventually. It is for this reason that we see some marriages break and they say things like ‘irreconcilable differences’ Why? Because of a shaky foundation. I worry, worry for my generation because if we do not come to know that that is not how it should be, we will make the same mistakes and end up being worse off.

Chastity should not be tagged ‘old school’, ask your parents or grandparents how it was back in the day. A young man or a girl does not just wake up in the morning and decide that she is in some relationship simply for fun, imitation,or to test the waters. It was solely for the purpose of companionship. You are not supposed to throw your heart out to just anybody. You will have to develop patience. Do not allow yourself to be plagued by thoughts like,’if I don’t start now how will I find somebody’ ‘I don’t want to be a lonely old cat lady’, All in good time, my dear, focus on your youth, make good friends, forget that talk about the ‘friend zone’  and you’ll be fine.

Finally, to the adults, If you want your marriage to last, marry your best friend, have the right reasons and understand what you are getting into, that means, if you claim to have love, God’s pure undiluted love, not the one that feels like common sense leaving your body, you will be able to tolerate, teach, take correction, learn and not be distracted by your flaws, nagging and angry bickering.

This is what it means to be old fashioned and if you don’t like it, Okay.


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